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Friday March 28, 2014
26 Adar 2, 5774

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That the Torah speaks in refined language is a principle of Biblical studies. The classic example is back in the Book of Genesis. There, when G-d tells Noah to take all the animals into the Ark, He speaks of the “clean” animals (hatehorah) and the “animals which are not clean” (asher einenah tehorah).  


Although the Torah is generally sparing with words–every seemingly superfluous letter is expounded upon and interpreted by the Sages–here it uses an additional eight (Hebrew) letters to avoid using the word teme’ah (literally, “defiled” or “impure”).


By doing this the Torah teaches us that we should never allow a shameful expression to pass our lips. When the Torah deliberately uses eight extra letters that could have been avoided simply by saying the word teme’ah, it is powerful message to us to watch our language.


And yet, a cursory look at this week’s readings which deal with the laws of the ritual impurity caused by tzaraat (“leprosy”) reveals the word tamei occurring numerous times. Why is it that in the story of Noah the Torah goes out of its way not to use a negative word and here it uses it repeatedly, seemingly at whim?


The answer given by the Sages is that in Genesis the Torah is recounting a historical narrative, and can thus allow itself to be more subtle and not pronounce a negative word. However, when it comers to halachah, to determining Jewish law, one cannot afford subtleties or flowery language; one must be crystal clear in laying down the law. The Law is sacrosanct and in matters of Law there may be no ambiguities. Our Parshah deals with dos and don’ts that must be expressed in no uncertain terms. When a rabbi is called upon to answer a halachic question, he should not beat around the bush. His response must be clear and unequivocal. And if it is treif, then he must pronounce it treif!


Now, generally speaking, rabbis should be gentle, nice and soft-spoken. They should suggest, not demand. The old “fire and brimstone” types don’t work that well today. But sometimes rabbis can be too gentle, too subtle and too undemanding. And not only in halachic matters but even in counseling.


Psychologists and social workers will, on principle, never be directive with their clients. It is part of their professional code not to impose their opinions or personal values on those seeking their guidance. They will try to help their clients “see the wood from the trees” so they can make their own informed decisions. Rabbis, on the other hand, should have no qualms about giving direction. After all, it’s their job!


A fellow once came to see me about his therapist.  

“She doesn’t tell me what to do,” he complained. I explained that therapists don’t work that way. “You want someone to tell you what to do? Go to a rabbi.”

If a couple goes for marriage counseling, a counselor is likely to guide them based on their hopes and aspirations. Do they really want to work it out, or are they going through the motions on their way to the divorce lawyer? And if it is the latter, the counselor may very well help them on their way. A rabbi will not hesitate to explain that marriage is sacred and should be worked on and that divorce is an absolutely last resort when all else has failed. The counselor might ask, “Would you guys like to stay married?” while the rabbi might say, “You must stay married.” Then, he may refer them to a professional counselor who is committed to saving marriages.


Remember the kleptomaniac who bumped into an old friend? The friend remembered how guilty he had felt because of his compulsive shoplifting and asked him whether he still had the problem. “No,” said the fellow. “I went to a psychiatrist and he helped me solve my problem.” “That’s great, so you don’t shoplift anymore?” asked the friend. “Sure I shoplift. I just don’t feel guilty anymore.”


Please G-d, rabbis will be soft, supportive, friendly, loving and gentle. Please G-d, they will give clear direction when they have to.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yacov & Hindy Borenstein



Four men are sitting at dinner. A Catholic, a Protestant, a Muslim and a Jew.

The first man, the Catholic, said, “I took advantage of some year-end profit taking and I don’t know what I am going to do with all of the cash I have accumulated…. I think that I am going to buy Chase Bank.”

The second man, the Protestant, said, “The Technology stock that I owned really soared. I too have accumulated a ton of cash…. I think that I am going to buy Home Depot.”

The third man, the Muslim, said, “You guys know how wealthy of an oil baron that I am, I too have so much cash I think that I am going to buy Miramax the film studio.”

The fourth, the Jew, sat quietly at the end of the table not saying a word.

The other three say, “So Sam, you are not telling us what you are going to be doing at year end.”

Sam quietly and gently picked up his coffee spoon and slowly mixed his coffee. He put the spoon down next to his cup. He looked sternly at the group and said, “I’m not selling!”


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